To forgive or not forgive.

To forgive or not forgive…that is the question?

Is forgiveness necessary in every situation? What about if someone disrespects you, offends you, or hurts you? Is it justifiable to hold onto the anger, bitterness and resentment in your heart, especially if the action was intentional?

The word forgive is defined as 1-to stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for (an offense, flaw or mistake) 2-to cancel a debt. While writing this blog I was convicted by the latter part of the definition lol, to cancel a debt, to basically release a person from having to earn my forgiveness. This is mind blowing. It reminds me of how the Father cancelled our debt and forgave our sins through the sacrifice of Jesus. The truth is we were guilty and He had a right to feel angry and resentful towards us. Yet, Jesus being the ultimate sacrifice allowed the Father to cancel a debt that we could never repay.

I can say it is easier for me to forgive people and that is only a result of me yielding to Holy Spirit living in me.Yet at times it’s a struggle because I feel justified in my anger and I want to hold on to it. It’s even more difficult when I replay the scenario over in my head a million times or I re-read the post or text messages until my anger is rekindled. When I first gave my life to the Lord back in 2002 (I backslid and rededicated my life) I equated forgiveness with reconciliation. Sometimes it is necessary and in other cases it is not. I have learned that in certain scenarios and in order to heal it is imperative that you separate yourself from people. You can truly forgive someone, release them in your heart and not associate with them. However, we must forgive. Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses”.

Now I am not advocating that you cut a everyone off you’ve ever had a disagreement with. Nevertheless, there are times when you must disconnect from people. We often ignore the Internal alarms that are ringing and going off inside of us and choose to give people “the benefit of the doubt”. Beloved (in my Iyanla Vanzant’s voice) pay attention to the signs !!! If you find yourself in a situation where you are not sure if you should reconcile or part ways with a person or people, pray about it. God will direct you. The reality is some people are not a part of the plan that God has for your life. It just is what it is. Some people are toxic, jealous and have ill intentions. Others are genuine and good natured but just not apart of the plan. If by the Holy Spirit you are being warned to disconnect from people and you blatantly ignore His dealings and stay connected you will suffer the consequences of your disobedience! No one and no-thang (nothing) is worth forfeiting your destiny for.

If we are honest we can admit that we have done or said things that have hurt and offended others. I know that I have not been the perfect friend, sister, auntie, mother, daughter, wife and so on. I know there are people that I have hurt and offended, some of which I am conscious of and some I am not aware of. I ask for forgiveness and I forgive because I need my sins and trespasses forgiven. I can be a trip at times 😂

My friends forgive so that you may be forgiven. Evaluate your relationships and determine which ones to hold on to and which ones to end, because your destiny depends on it. Ensure that you are not the toxic, jealous ill willed person in someone else’s life. If you are acknowledge it, ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and ask the Father to help and change you. He can and will do it!!
Let’s be purposed minded, intentional in love, intentional in forgiveness, intentional in displaying the nature of Christ to a world with little hope…..till next week ❤️❤️❤️

Let’s pray
Father it is in the name of Jesus that we come before you. Father we ask for forgiveness. Forgive us Lord for the people we have hurt, intentionally and unintentionally, forgive us for hurting and disobeying you. Help us to be purposed in our love, empower us to love like you love. We ask you to remove every person from our lives that mean us harm and help us to recognize your warning signs and to not be so familiar with people that we cannot disconnect from them. Father, for those people who you remove and expose we pray for them. We pray for their well being, we pray and ask that you will deal with their heart and bring them to a place of repentance. We pray your protection over them. And Father we thank you for the divine connections that you are bringing in our life. Every strategic person that you will use to bring us one step closer to our destiny. We love you and give you praise in Jesus name amen.

Remember, forgive it is necessary and it is freeing ❤️❤️❤️


In life and in our walk with God we encounter situations and people that make us fearful. We have a choice to either push past the fear or give into fear. Like in 1 Kings chapter 19, the prophet Elijah took a stand against King Ahab, Jezebel(Ahab’s wife) and the prophets of Baal. Elijah challenged the prophets of Baal to see whose God would prove himself mighty(Read all about in 1 Kings 18-19) God revealed His power and proved that Baal was a false God. Elijah then slew the prophets of Baal as required by the law. King Ahab reported to Jezebel all that Elijah had done and this infuriated her. Jezebel made a promise to kill the man of God. Word spread (as it often does) and Elijah was made aware of the threat against his life. He then allowed that fear to overtake him. He paid more attention to the situation at hand instead of the God who had proved himself faithful on many occasions.

What are you hiding from? Is it the fear of man and their opinion? Is it the fear of failure? Is it the fear of facing certain things in your life? Fear is crippling and it will hinder the plan that God has for your life. It is imperative that you focus on the solution and not the problem.(I know it can be difficult) Fear had me bound for too long,I was overly concerned with the thoughts and opinions of others.I have realized that not everyone will agree with you or support you but that’s ok,love them anyway. I made a decision to push past the fear and move into my purpose. I stand on this scripture “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7) Do I still get afraid? Heck yeah. But I’m learning it’s not about me, it’s about Christ in me. He is the one empowering me to do whatever it is He has called me too. We have to remind ourselves of Philippians 4:13 “ I can do all things through Christ which strengthen me” Be encouraged today and make a decision to push past your fear.

Let’s pray
Father in the name of Jesus I thank you for life. I realize everything may not be as I would like it be but I am still grateful. I ask you to empower me to walk in the purpose that has been destined for my life. I thank you that you have not given me a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.I take authority over every plan, plot and scheme of the enemy. I thank you that greater is He that is within me, than he that is in the world. 1 John 4:4. I choose this day to push past my fear and walk in my purpose. In Jesus name I pray. Amen


Bleeding Heart

Quite often this term “bleeding heart” is used as an insult towards individuals who seem to be overly compassionate and forgiving. While in my opinion, we as Christians should be the most compassionate, merciful and loving people, within reason. We are not called to be doormats or unwise but we are called to be Christ like.

It baffles my mind to see Christians who are so callous, cold, unloving and judgemental, the polar opposite of Christ. We wonder why people are leery of God. Most of the apprehension stems from our poor representation of Him. Christ is the epitome of love. He came in the flesh to be the sacrificial lamb for the world.For He is the Lamb that was slain before the foundation of the world. (Revelation 13:8) Jesus is God in the flesh yet He is touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. (Hebrews 4:15). Jesus is fully aware of all the situations and temptations we face and therefore He lives to make intercession for us. (Hebrews 7:26) Jesus bestows mercy on us daily, yet we find it difficult to show love and mercy to others.

As we see in scripture, Jesus came to seek and save the lost. He confused, defied and angered the “religious folk”. He loved the unlovely, the cast down, the forgotten,the people others often neglect. How can be say we love God and not love people? The core of Christianity is founded on relationship, God loved the world so He gave his only begotten son! He sacrificed His only Son just to restore the relationship that existed between mankind and God before the fall in the garden of Eden….

Focus on being an example of God’s love!

Let’s Pray!
Father in the name of Jesus I thank you for this word. I thank you for sacrificing your only begotten Son just to restore the relationship between the world and yourself. Thank you for loving us with an everlasting love and drawing us with loving kindness. Father I pray that your love will envelope everyone reading this. And for those that don’t know you that you would reveal yourself to them in a very real way. Let them experience your boundless love. Reassure them that they are important and have a divine purpose to fulfill. They are not an accident, but purposed. You desire a relationship with them and long to lead and guide them. Father you said in your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus and believe that He died for our sins and was raised again from the dead we will be saved. For with the heart a person believes [in Christ as Savior] resulting in his justification [that is, being made acceptable to God]; and with the mouth he acknowledges and confesses [his faith openly], resulting in and confirming [his] salvation. (Romans 10:10). Father, let thy will be done. In Jesus name. Amen.