How to relate to the Father

What are the characteristics of a Father? A Father is protective, affectionate, a wall of trust and security, the source of encouragement, patient. Someone who provides the necessities of life, a good disciplinarian, supportive, loyal, and shows unconditional love.

Many of us have a strained or non-existent relationship with our earthly father. Some of us may not even know who our father is. I wasn’t fortunate enough to grow up in a two-family household and experience the ”love of a father” that many daughters yearn for.To add insult to injury, my mother passed away at a young age. I “knew” my father, he was involved in my life to a certain point, but due to life choices, he ended up serving 27 years in prison. As a result, he missed most of my life experiences, i.e., .birthdays, graduations, my wedding, and the birth of my daughter. So it’s no surprise that when I gave my life to God the Father, I didn’t know how to relate to Him and guess what I’m still learning. I still struggle with receiving love because I don’t know how to receive compliments and unconditional love from people. I’m guarded. I have difficulty trusting people, as I often feel like people have hidden agendas. I know, I know it may sound crazy, but it’s my truth. I can say that I’m growing in the area of trust, and it’s because I’m learning how to trust my heavenly Father. I can assuredly say that I know He has my best interest at heart and wants what’s best for me. I don’t have to question His motives. For his words says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) There is good news for you!! Even if you have a strained relationship, no relationship or may not even know who your biological father is. GOD, the Father, loves you unconditionally. So much so that He sent His son JESUS to bear my sins, your sins the world’s sins, in our stead. The Father wants a relationship with you-yes you. Just as He wanted one with me, this Father will never disappoint you, loves you despite your mistakes, and will care for you like a Father is supposed too. Will you let Him?? I promise you this is one decision in life that you will never regret, and from a union with Him will all other relationships flow. He helped me with bitterness that I felt towards my father and mother (who I felt left me). As I continue to grow closer to God the Father, it is fostering growth in my relationship with my earthly father, and I’m grateful that we still have the opportunity to get to know one another on a deeper level. Now, if you can’t reconcile with your earthly father, understand that you are not a mistake!! That person was just the vessel that GOD the Father used to bring you into this world. You were created on purpose and for a purpose. Connect with the Father to find out what that is. He’s waiting on you, and I’ll be praying for you!!

Let’s pray: Father, it’s in the name of your son JESUS that we come before you. Father, we thank you for life, as many have transitioned as a result of this pandemic. Thank you for keeping us. Father, we don’t have all of the answers, so we put our trust in you. We ask for you to heal the brokenhearted, comfort those who need comfort, love on those who need love. Help us to release the reigns of control over our lives and cry out to you. Help us to know you as Father, the Father that loves us unconditionally. The Father that wants the best for us. The Father that wants to commune with us. For those who don’t know you, I pray that they reconcile to you and began to heal and began to tap into their GOD given purpose. Father, I ask for you to continue to protect and keep us. We love you, and trust you! In JESUS’ name, we pray. Amen.